Preparing A Sibling For Baby

By Michelle Higgins

You may be excited about the thought of having another baby to complete your family, but your little darling first born may not quite feel comfortable with the idea of having a sibling! The spotlight that was on her all these years is about to shift and she may feel threatened. Help her make the transition a smooth ride and let her enjoy the experience of having a little brother/sister.

‘You are gonna be Big brother!’

It is crucial to prepare a sibling for the arrival of a new baby, much in advance. Tell him he is soon going to have a playmate as soon as you begin to show. Address the baby as his little ‘sister’ or ‘brother’. Involve him in all decision making about the new baby. You can even take him along to the doctor on your antenatal visits so that he can listen to your baby’s heartbeats.

Decide whether you want him to attend the birth process.

Discuss his favorite baby names to christen his sibling. Ask him to decorate the nursery or take him along to shop for baby’s wardrobe, tell him to select a toy for his new sister/brother.

If you plan to make any changes like shifting him to a new bedroom do it much before the baby arrives, so that he does not feel he is being displaced to make way for the newborn.

Patience please!

Don’t be alarmed at the volley of questions your little one fires at you when you break the news to him. “Will it be a brother or sister?” “Where will he/she/it come from?” “Whom will he look like?” “Will you love him more than me?” and so on. Tackle his concern with patience and understanding.

Read out books about pregnancy, birth and babies to him. Bring out photo albums of his baby days and explain how he was as a baby and how much he has grown up. Read to him stories where main characters deal with sibling rivalry and mixed feelings.

I want some attention!

Even if she seems excited about the new baby, it is normal for an older sibling to feel neglected after baby has arrived. It may be a rude shock for her not to see a merry playmate but a baby that only sleeps, cries, feeds and pees all the time.

Even if you prepare a sibling for the arrival of a new baby adequately, sibling rivalry reaches its peak after baby’s arrival. Don’t be surprised if she gets back to thumb-sucking, throws temper tantrums, reverts to baby-talk or wets her pants. It may be attention-seeking behavior. Reassure her you still love her.

If she chooses to ignore the baby, don’t force her to do otherwise. Let her take her own time.

We are family

Seek your older child’s help to dress, bathe or feed the baby, and let him push her pram. Praise him for his efforts.

Spare some time to be alone with him daily. Do talk about something else other than the baby.

With a little help from you, soon you will be overwhelmed to watch big brother smothering his little sister with all his love and affection.

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Breastfeeding My Baby, Where Do I Start?

By Melida Cohen

Congratulations you have a new baby! Having a new baby is hard enough but when you choose to breastfeed you sometimes feel that you made this experience even harder. Breastfeeding is not as difficult as it looks or as you may have heard from others. It is actually pretty easy and a very fulfilling way to nourish your newborn once you get the hang of it. Remember as with most things practice makes perfect! Breastfeeding is new to you and to your little one but with a little practice you two will become pros in no time!

During the first week of your baby’s life, your breasts will produce colostrum for your baby to drink. Colostrum is rich in antibodies and aids the baby’s immune system. It also helps him pass his first bowel movement, which is called meconium. Meconium is black and tarry looking and is in the first few diapers after birth. Then he begins to transition to a brown substance and after your milk comes in, it becomes a yellow, mustardy stool that is loose and watery. Bottle-fed babies pass firmer, tannish stools than breastfed babies.

After 24-48 hours after birth, your baby will start having wet diapers that will increase to two or three a day.

Your technique and positioning is a very important factor in ensuring that your breastfeeding experience is a great one. There are a few different positions that can be used to make the experience more comfortable for you and baby. Some of these positions include:

• Laying down – Lay down on you side with pillows behind you to support your back. Lay baby facing you with her head on a pillow your breast should be level with baby’s mouth. Bend your legs with a pillow between your knees and then have baby latch on.

• Sitting Up – Sit up either in bed or a comfortable chair or couch with pillows supporting your back and head. Place a pillow on your lap and put baby on top of the pillow in your arms, you can rest your arms on the pillow to make it easier to bring baby up to your breast. Bend your knees to make this even easier have baby latch on.

• The Clutch Hold – This is also known as the football hold. This position is also good when nursing twins as it allows mom to have a baby on each side. Sit down and tuck your baby under your arm almost like a handbag. Rest baby’s head on a firm pillow on your lap. Ensure that baby’s feet are behind your back. Your hand is at the back of baby’s neck, not on baby’s head. Your arm will extend down baby’s back , guide baby to latch on

These are just a few of the positions that you can use there is also the cradle hold, clutch hold, and the transition position. Do some research to learn these other positions to nurse your baby if you find the above positions uncomfortable.

While your baby drinks colostrum and then milk, you should listen for a pattern of “suck, suck, suck, swallow.” This pattern will be rhythmic and there should be no “clicking” noises. The “clicking” sound can indicate that your baby is not properly latched on and may not be getting enough milk from you. If you start to hear this, you need to unlatch him and then reattach him. If you continue to hear this sound after reattaching him several times, then you may want to consult a lactation consultant or your pediatrician.

After the first week of life, you should see 6-8 wet diapers each day and at least 3 bowel movements a day. His urine should be clear and he should become more alert with each passing day. Your baby should also be gaining weight and growing, as this is the surest way to tell that they are getting enough nutrition. If you have two days in a row that deviates from the above indicators, then you should call your pediatrician immediately.

Breastfeeding problems, such as milk production difficulties, are not as common when using the PDF feeding method, but they do occur. Even if you are well rested, eating healthy, have a pretty routine life, and your baby is growing and getting enough food, you still may experience a milk production issue. Many things can cause production problems. Here are just a few.

Some things that can affect your milk supply are:

• What mom eats

• How much mom rests and sleeps

• Her state of mind

• The age of the mom

• How many children you have

• Your desire to breastfeed

• Your nursing capabilities

• Your nursing techniques

• Baby’s latch on abilities

If you choose to breastfeed, it is very important that you take your baby for their check-ups as needed. If you don’t, how will you know if he is getting enough milk and growing at the correct rate? There is no way for you to tell that your child is getting enough nutrition for sure without your child being weighed.

About the Author: Melida Cohen is the author of “Baby’s First Year: Everything You Should Know but probably don’t” Visit www.CareForMyBaby.com to get a free copy of her baby care newsletter or visit her blog at www.CareForMyBabyBlog.blogspot.com to chat with other new moms.

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Mommy & Baby: Naptime

By Kirsten Hawkins

During the first two months of life, if your baby isn’t napping well, trying cutting back on her waketime by 15 minute increments. If your baby is overstimulated, she will become hyper-vigilant and fight off sleep as exhaustion overtakes her. The best way to prevent this is to make sure you’re not keeping her up past her normal “sleepy cues” of yawning, rubbing her eyes, and dozing.

Sleeping is sometimes a struggle for parents who have been programmed to think that crying will harm their children. Short periods of crying and fussiness (15-20 minutes) will not harm your child, make her lose brain cells, or make her bipolar at age 30. She will learn to self-quiet and fall asleep on her own, but only if you encourage this skill. It is imperative that babies learn to fall asleep on their own in their cribs so they can self-comfort when they wake in the middle of the night.

Keeping in mind that stable sleep patterns are rooted in stable feeding patterns, let’s look at the different stages of your baby’s life:

 Newborn: newborn babies sleep 16-20 hours per day, including naps between feedings. When your baby has eaten and been awake a short while after feeding, put her down before she’s hyperstimulated.

 Two months: at 8 weeks and beyond, you should start to permit your baby to self-soothe at naptimes and bedtime. She may cry when you put her down. It’s okay–don’t let her cry interminably, but set a timer and go in and check on her after 10 or 15 minutes. Don’t pick her up, but pat her bum or rub her back, whispering “sleepy time” and other soothing words.

 3-6 months: sometime in this time frame, your baby will drop her 3rd nap of the day; typically it’s the late afternoon nap. You may experience some extreme fussiness as she drops it–she might want to snooze, but if you want her to go to bed when you say, you’ll find she sleeps better if you encourage her to stay awake from her early afternoon nap to bedtime.

 16+ months: between 16 & 20 months, the morning nap is dropped and a longer (and sometimes earlier) afternoon nap ensues. Your baby should be sleeping 10-12 hours at night with a 2-3 hour afternoon nap at this point.

Rules about Naps

1. Mom, and not baby, decides when the nap starts.

2. Mom, and not baby, decides when the nap ends.

3. After 4 months of age, if your baby wakes up crying, it’s because she hasn’t had enough sleep.

She might be poopy, have an arm stuck in a crib slat, or have turned over and not be able to get back. Help her out and encourage her to doze back off. Babies that are well-rested will wake up cooing and happy, letting you know they’ve had enough sleep.

About the Author: Kirsten Hawkins is a baby and parenting expert specializing new mothers and single parent issues. Visit http://www.babyhelp411.com/ for more information on how to raising healthy, happy children.

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Pregnancy Eating Plan – How to Look Great When Eating For Two

What you need is a good pregnancy eating plan that can help you to make sure you do not gain more weight than needed to support your baby.

As you transition from pregnancy into motherhood it is very important to monitor and be responsible about what you are putting in your body, especially if you plan on breastfeeding. Here are a few basic guidelines that can help you develop eating habits that will support a healthy pregnancy and keep you looking great in the process.

1) Keep on Drinking-We are talking about water. Getting plenty of water is essential for any healthy diet and the same goes in pregnancy. Try to drink more in the morning and cut back in the evening to avoid too many nightly trips to the bathroom.

2) Know Your Limits-Eating for two does not mean that you are eating for two grown adults. In pregnancy you only need to eat about 300 extra calories per day to support the growth of your baby. Plan your meals accordingly your pregnancy eating plan does not require much larger portions than you were eating pre-pregnancy.

3) Take Your Prenatal Vitamins-Certain vitamins and nutrients (such as folic acid) are critical for the healthy development of your baby. Supplement your diet with a good pre-natal vitamin to make sure you are getting all the critical nutrients.

4) Eat Small Portions Often Throughout the Day-Chances are that in your busy life you are not cooking gourmet feasts every evening. Instead of having a few large meals each day try breaking it up in to several smaller meals that will control portions better. This can also help relieve heartburn symptoms that many pregnant women experience.

5) Keep Healthy Snacks Around-It is very easy when pregnant to give into food cravings. Avoid the temptation by keeping these foods out of your house. Make sure the fridge is stocked with fruits and vegetables. When you get a craving for ice cream, try eating a sweet piece of fruit instead. If you get cravings for salt or spicy foods keep low-fat pretzels or baked tortilla chips with salsa around.

The components of a healthy pregnancy eating plan do not differ too much from a pre-pregnancy healthy diet plan. Make sure you are eating a variety of foods and do your best to not give in to cravings. Yes, you are eating for two, but do not use this as an excuse to over-indulge.

Following this basic pregnancy eating plan can help you control your weight, have a healthy pregnancy, and look great during pregnancy. Better yet, maintaining these guidelines will help you to lose your baby weight quickly after baby comes.

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